This Valentine’s Day how about a little self-love

Do you ever say these things to yourself, “I really want to feel better,” “I need to start going to the gym,” “If I could just lose 10 lbs …,” “I don’t want to take these pain medications any longer,” “I really want to stop taking antidepressants,” or fill in your personal health goal.

But, what do you do after you express this desire? Do you stew in the impossibility of change, or do you take action?

In my experience working with hundreds of clients, most people rather live in their discomfort than make the changes needed to achieve their deepest desires.

What is the main difference between people that take action and people who don’t?

It’s a little concept called, Self Love.

Self love is the love and esteem you hold for yourself in your thoughts, actions and deeds. It is caring about yourself as much as you do about others.

When you don’t have self love, you put yourself last, you allow people to take advantage of you, and you have a difficult time saying no. Doing this costs you your wellbeing and makes reaching your health and wellness goals 1,000 times harder.

You may be the most polished person on the outside, but if you are not loving yourself, you are not only affecting your health, you are also sending ripples of discontent out into the world.

Every critical or judgmental thought you think about yourself or about other people ripples out beyond yourself into space, thus what you think causes your reality.

“All along, we have said that all the universe’s thoughts, individually and collectively, cause energy to “form” into the physical reality we experience.” – Excerpt from: David Cameron Gikandi & Bob Doyle. “A Happy Pocket Full of Money, Expanded Study Edition.”

But what if you choose to change your thoughts?

What if you decide you are done receiving the worst from your world? Unsupportive friends, uncomfortable experiences, financial hardships, body aches and pains, or other negative situations.

What would happen if you change your thoughts about yourself and your world?

When you choose to change your thoughts, all the things in your life that bother you go away.

It happens so simply, yet it is so simple that you may not believe it and won’t even try it. But if you do try changing your thoughts about yourself, your life will change.

The secret to changing your thoughts about yourself is love! Yes, that elusive emotion you both long for and push away. That emotion that can lift you to the highest heights or drop you into the darkest abyss.

Love.

Feel it now.

If you really want to change your life, your health, your relationships, or your finances, you are going to have to put more of your focus on love. You’ll have to focus on loving yourself. You’ll have to focus on accepting your current conditions. You’ll have to focus on forgiving yourself and anyone that has hurt you in the past.

You’ll have to conjure up the feeling of love and allow that feeling to absorb your whole body, your whole being, your whole life.

You don’t have to be loving every moment of everyday. You’re human after all. Most people have to work up to being loving all day.

Start by affirming and being — just being LOVE.

Start by saying, “I am love, I am Loving, I am Lovable.” Say this to yourself before going to sleep and first thing in the morning before you get out of bed. Start being and feeling love for yourself for no reason. Do it now.

When someone annoys you or pisses you off, say it again, “I am Love. I am Loving. I am Loveable,” before you react. Say it to yourself when you catch yourself criticizing your body or behavior. Say it when someone is criticizing or shouting at you.

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise L. Hay

Say it to yourself when you are feeling gratitude for all that you have in this present moment.

Staying in the frequency and energy of LOVE will attract more love into your body, your health and your life.

To learn more about how self love will change your life, schedule a free Self Love strategy session this month with Nancy Presser. She’s here to help you change your health with one loving thought at a time. Contact her at 616-0032.

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